Stories From Women Who Walk

The Gift in Her Grief: Jane Duncan Rogers Founded "Before I Go Solutions" to Help the Rest of Us Grieve Less. Part 2.

Episode Summary

3 years following the death of her husband Phillip, Jane Duncan Rogers published Gifted By Grief which led to her founding Before I Go Solutions. Join us to learn about the absolutely vital end-of-life planning work that she and her team are spreading around the world! Part 2.

Episode Notes

Coming to you from Whidbey Island, Washington this is Stories From Women Who Walk. You’ll recognize yourself in these true-life stories of adversity, challenge, fear, discovery, adventure, expression, and more from women who are walking their lives while their lives walk them and the lasting difference their journeys have made. I’m your host, Diane Wyzga.  

Welcome back to Part 2 of the podcast interview with my guest, Jane Duncan Rogers, founder and Chief Officer of Before I Go Solutions and Before I Go Academy who joined us from North Scotland. I’ve invited Jane to talk with us about the absolutely vital end-of-life planning work that she and her team are spreading around the world. We were talking about creating Before I Go Solutions as a non-profit when I asked Jane about the challenges and frustrations she faced. Let’s hear what she has to say about this and so much more on the topic of end-of-life planning, how it benefits you and your loved ones, and what you can do about it.

Minutes: 37:38

00 to 2:03     Intro

2:03 to 4:20     Challenges and Frustrations 

I’m curious. You said you knew you were on the right path because of the Yes!, the resounding “Yes!” as you were checking in - but what might have been some of the frustrations and challenges as you were putting all this together?

   4:20 to 8:00     Why Should We Even Care About End-of-Life Planning?

Over the past year or so of COVID has there been an increased awareness of end-of-life, of mortality? Do you find that because of COVID that there is not only an increased awareness of life and end-of-life but people are more likely to raise the subject of end-of-life and mortality?

8:00 to 11:35     How Do You Draw In and Work With the Willing?

11:35 to 14:40     How Do You Begin the Conversation in the Family, With Loved Ones?

There is a return to face-to-face so we will have the opportunity for a collective; but before we get to that place, how do you start a conversation in the family?

14:40 to 19:45     Before I Go Solutions Website & Free 10 Question Quiz

19:45 to 24:50     Digital Footprint

We take such care with compassionate End-of-Life decisions with our pets/ animal companions. We do not consider ourselves, our loved ones - nor do we think about the digital footprint. Question: what will happen to it, what can happen to it, what can people do to remove the footprint or let it be?

24:50 to 28:08     Highlights About Topics

What are other topics to address, chapter headings of what’s to be learned.

28:08 to 31:00     Joy in End-of-Life Planning and Topic of Death

There is an over-riding sense of joy in this conversation with Jane which is a combination of true energy, purpose, passion and bringing End of Life Ellie the Elephant to the light. This isn’t grim or depressing. This is engaging.  

31:00 to 37:38     Legacy

As we sit here today what would you like to see happen in the world as a result of your work?  

As we begin to close, what might have been left unsaid?

Before I say thank you to Jane I want to mention that all social media links, and TEDx talk, and connections to Jane Duncan Rogers and her work, Before I Go Solutions will be posted in the Episode Notes. Please do make sure you drop by her website, take that free 10 question quiz, and consider consulting with her, and perhaps joining one of the training groups.  

Thank you very much, Jane, for walking along with us and sharing your life journey story which, I trust, will be of very good use and inspiration to those who are curious about and those who are ready to apply some solutions to these end-of-life questions. I can’t thank you enough for sharing your story with us.

Thank you so much for the opportunity. I just want to spread the word as much as I can!

This is a terrific start! I’ve got all my work done; I’m one!

Great, great wonderful!


Here we are, at the end of the road but not the journey. Thank you for listening to Part 2 of this episode of Stories From Women Who Walk with your host Diane Wyzga and my guest Jane Duncan Rogers, the founder and Chief Officer of Before I Go Solutions and Before I Go Academy who joined us from North Scotland.  We hope you found joy, inspiration, and practical tips in our conversation about end-of-life planning.  

You’re also invited to check out over 375 episodes of this podcast Stories From Women Who Walk found on Simplecast, your favorite podcast platform, including Android, and my website: Quarter Moon Story Arts. This is the place to thrive together. Come for the stories - stay for the magic. Speaking of magic, I hope you’ll subscribe, follow, share a nice shout out on your social media or podcast channel of choice, and join us next time! You will have wonderful company as we walk our lives together.



Who am I?

Jane Duncan Rogers, founder of Before I Go Solutions and the B.I.G. Academy.

When my husband Philip died, I never for one moment imagined  I would end up working in this field.

I had been an award-winning counselor and coach for over 25 years, having originally trained personally with the famous Louise L. Hay in 1990, working in the personal growth field in many different aspects. I'd  published books and tapes (well before the internet) and was helping small business owners to reach their full potential when Philip died.

Because of the questions he had answered in his last year, I was well prepared in some respects for the admin side of things afterwards. But there was much more we simply did not know about.

Fast forward to 2018, a year during which both my parents died.  They had completed a comprehensive end-of-life plan each, the one that Before I Go Solutions offers, now known as the Before I Go Method®.

This was very different to my husband who had answered some things, but there was a lot more that I simply had to decide about myself.

And that difference was huge – as my parents' executor, I simply had to follow all their thoughtful instructions.

What’s more, it was easy to find everything, and I took great solace from knowing I was carrying out what they wanted (and that they had known I would do this).

My three siblings and I had no arguments at all, over what was a pretty stressful period (they both died unexpectedly within the same week).

I am so incredibly grateful and appreciative for the organisation they had so carefully thought through.

So I know from personal experience how hugely important this preparation work is, and I want to help you to help others do this too!

Jane’s background of 25 years in the psychotherapeutic and training fields has been perfect for the not-for-profit - Before I Go Solutions - she founded and helps to operate. Together with her team of trained End of Life Facilitators, she provides products and programmes to help people complete their end-of-life plans, something about which many have good intentions but never quite actually get around to doing.

Jane lives in the North of Scotland, re-married during COVID lock-down, and she and her new husband are building not only a new life but a new eco-house/home together.  

How to Stay in Touch With Jane Duncan Rogers

Jane Duncan Rogers, Chief Officer Before I Go Solutions, CIC:

- Author of: Before I Go: The Essential Guide to Creating A Good End of Life Plan and Gifted By Grief

- Speaker on Tedx: How to Do A Good Death:

- Speaker on Conscious Grief series with Tara Nash:

- Training in End of Life Plan Facilitation:

- End-of-Life Planning Cards:

- Facebook: End-of-Life Conversations Group:

- Twitter:

- Linked In:


Production Team: Quarter Moon Story Arts

Music: Entering Erdenheim from Crossing the Waters by Steve Schuch & Night Heron Music

Sound Editing: Dawin Carlisle & First Class Reels

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